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Who wants to be in a happy and healthy relationship? I’m sure you’ve always wanted to be in one. Even if you’re a baby girl or baby boy enjoying your single life and not in a rush to settle down, this thought must have crossed your mind before. Especially after seeing how some couples treat each other in public, on social media and maybe even in your household. Some of you have fallen in love with the way some couples interact with each other and say: “What a lovely couple, they look so happy. I want something like that.” I can see why you would want something like that. I mean, who wouldn’t wanna be in a happy, healthy relationship? It sounds like a silly question but trust me when I say it’s not. And I’ll tell you why after asking you this question: Are you happy as a single person? Are You Happy…

There are loads of pictures of couples on Instagram and Twitter with the caption ‘#RelationshipGoals’. When you see these pictures, you start thinking about your love life and often get lost in your thoughts. You end up asking yourself: ‘Why am I single?’ Being A Single Pringle For 4 Years It’s been nearly four years since my last serious relationship. In the past couple of years, I’ve been dating but nothing has developed into a relationship. ‘You’re single CynTea, you should go on dates and mingle!’ Yes, I agree dating can be fun. But after some time had gone by, most of us would like to take things to the next level with our potential bae. That’s when things can get tricky as you end up finding out that the guy you’re dating isn’t looking to commit. You’re clearly not on the same page so now you’ve got to start from square one again *sigh*… ‘You’re NOT A Failure!’…

I’ve seen a lot of girls tweeting things like: “I just don’t have time for a man right now. I wanna build my business first before I can get into something serious.” Ladies, let’s be real… if a guy you really fancy told you that he can’t be in a relationship right now because of his very demanding career, will you not be gutted? Of course, you’ll be gutted! You’ll most probably give him 100 reasons on how you’re gonna support him to reach his full potential and not distract him in the relationship. So if this is something you would do, why are you stressed about dating or being in a relationship whilst being a boss lady? Use Your Time Wisely! Dating whilst building a brand/business can be hard. Both cost a lot of time. So how do you make time to work on your goals, spend quality time…

It’s coming up to the most LOVABLE time of the year. Some people have been looking forward to this day for a very long time. And there are people who wished that this day didn’t exist due to one reason or the other. Could be due to a heartbreak, memories of an ex or maybe they just don’t give a flying duck about this date. Either way, it doesn’t change the fact that Valentine’s Day is almost here. What Have You Got Planned For Valentine’s Day? Have you made any plans with bae? If you did, that’s good for you! Spoil your bae. In fact, show EXTRA love to bae if you like. Do whatever floats your boat. But what do you get up to on Valentine’s Day if you’re single and don’t have a bae to spend the day with? A lot of single people don’t look forward to this…

Have you ever found yourself breaking up with your ex only for things to feel like nothing has changed? Let me paint the picture… You’re still in regular contact with each other by having your daily WhatsApp debates, still sending each other memes through Instagram and let’s not forget about acting lovey-dovey like nothing has changed… This could be from days to months after the breakup! So when is the relationship really over I hear you say? Good question! Let’s dive straight into it. “Are You Guys Still Together?” Every couple has something that they would describe as ‘that’s our thing’. It could be from having a date night scheduled every Friday night to going back and forth with WhatsApp voice notes during working hours. It varies from couple to couple. Now imagine if “this thing” was to carry on after the breakup… I’ve experienced a few breakups in my lifetime that didn’t make any…

My love life has felt like a long roller coaster ride for the past couple of years. One minute, things are going very well with a guy and then suddenly things change. Does this scenario ring a bell to you? It’s like the conversations become less. You stop receiving those ‘Good morning miss, I hope you slept well’ messages. Every morning, you still wake up eager to find out whether he messaged you overnight. You look at your phone and guess what… NO text and missed calls from him. To make things worse, he even read your message on WhatsApp but didn’t respond back. Things just don’t feel the same anymore… What Have I Done?         ‘Have I done something wrong?’ is probably the first thought that strikes your mind. ‘Hmmm maybe he’s busy’ is what you say to reassure yourself that you haven’t done anything wrong. Somehow you end up reminiscing about…

I remember how a lot of people frowned upon online dating in my teenage years. In those days, you would’ve been called a desperado for using dating apps. But what do you really know about dating as a teenager? I guess you’re just too young to understand… Even in this day and age, there are still a lot of people who frown upon online dating. If you’re on Tinder, people automatically assume you’re desperately looking to have a one night stand. If you’re on MatchMaker, you’re considered to be a hopeless romantic. So what do you call the people who have found love on social media? Isn’t sliding into the DMs a form of online dating? It Goes Down In The DM! I’m sure someone has slid into your DMs before or maybe you’re guilty of doing all the sliding. Either way, I know for a fact that you’ve thought about…

When are we coming to eat Jollof? When are we going to cut a cake? These are the type of questions people bombard me with at family parties and in the church. As a Nigerian lady, I’ve noticed that if you’re in your mid 20’s and you’re not engaged or do not have a boyfriend, people will start being concerned. Read this in an African accent: ‘Ah ah, are you being too picky? Why don’t you have a boyfriend by now? Are you driving them away? It’s funny how they ask and accuse me of all these things. These are the same people that advised me to focus on getting a degree in university and not have a boyfriend because men are a distraction. So aunty, if I actually took your advice (not like it makes any difference to my current relationship status), how the hell am I supposed to be engaged right now lol? Why Is Everyone Playing Cupid?…

The only thing that runs through your mind after a fresh break up is your ex bae (or in some cases bae). The reason I said bae is because some of us are or have been in traffic light relationships. You don’t know whether the red light is permanent or just holding up traffic for a while. The amber light might make you want to cross the road to make things work. Who knows, it might change back to a green light and this could be a temporary break up… But right now you’re hurting and feeling lovesick as literally everything around you is reminding you of your ex. From the T-shirt hanging in your wardrobe to your new phone case he bought you last week. How do you heal from this? In this blog, I’ll be touching on four ways that will help you get over your ex and heal from the…

When some people hear the word compromise, they literally jump into defense mood as if someone just threw a jab at them. I recently came across a few Instagram posts where some women were very much against compromising. They said that compromising is a no-no in a relationship as your partner should love you for who you are. How do you feel about this statement? Do you agree? So Why Do People HATE Compromising? I don’t actually think people have an issue with compromising. I think that compromising has been labelled as an issue depending on what’s being suggested to change or to happen. Let me paint the picture… A guy meets this very beautiful girl who wears make-up. Not too much make-up, but just enough foundation to cover the blemishes and a bit of mascara to make her eyes look alive. They end up dating for a while and things progress…