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When are we coming to eat Jollof? When are we going to cut a cake? These are the type of questions people bombard me with at family parties and in the church. As a Nigerian lady, I’ve noticed that if you’re in your mid 20’s and you’re not engaged or do not have a boyfriend, people will start being concerned. Read this in an African accent: ‘Ah ah, are you being too picky? Why don’t you have a boyfriend by now? Are you driving them away? It’s funny how they ask and accuse me of all these things. These are the same people that advised me to focus on getting a degree in university and not have a boyfriend because men are a distraction. So aunty, if I actually took your advice (not like it makes any difference to my current relationship status), how the hell am I supposed to be engaged right now lol? Why Is Everyone Playing Cupid?…

The only thing that runs through your mind after a fresh break up is your ex bae (or in some cases bae). The reason I said bae is because some of us are or have been in traffic light relationships. You don’t know whether the red light is permanent or just holding up traffic for a while. The amber light might make you want to cross the road to make things work. Who knows, it might change back to a green light and this could be a temporary break up… But right now you’re hurting and feeling lovesick as literally everything around you is reminding you of your ex. From the T-shirt hanging in your wardrobe to your new phone case he bought you last week. How do you heal from this? In this blog, I’ll be touching on four ways that will help you get over your ex and heal from the…

When some people hear the word compromise, they literally jump into defense mood as if someone just threw a jab at them. I recently came across a few Instagram posts where some women were very much against compromising. They said that compromising is a no-no in a relationship as your partner should love you for who you are. How do you feel about this statement? Do you agree? So Why Do People HATE Compromising? I don’t actually think people have an issue with compromising. I think that compromising has been labelled as an issue depending on what’s being suggested to change or to happen. Let me paint the picture… A guy meets this very beautiful girl who wears make-up. Not too much make-up, but just enough foundation to cover the blemishes and a bit of mascara to make her eyes look alive. They end up dating for a while and things progress…

This was meant to be a blog solely for my tall ladies but this topic actually relates to everyone. Even men can relate to it too! I will be writing in a girl’s perspective based on my experiences so just picture yourself in this situation by answering this question: How would you describe your perfect match using five words? What’s Your Type? If someone was to ask me what my type is, I would say: Tall, Black and Buff. With buff, I mean a guy who’s in shape with muscles. Let’s not mistake this for facial appearance lol. And obviously the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice *winks*! If he has facial hair then that’s a bonus but if he doesn’t, it’s not the end of the world lol. But have I ever ended up with someone who matches this full description? Hmm not really… It’s either the guy I dated…

What’s the first thing you normally do after upsetting someone? Apologise? But what if your apology isn’t accepted; what do you do then? ‘Think before you speak’ is a very common quote that we all know but sometimes seem to forget. There can be times where the wrong words find their way in your mouth. Instead of thinking before you speak, you end up saying something offensive. You might not think you did any harm with what you said. But guess what, it can still be taken the wrong way which can lead to you hurting someone’s feelings. Is An Apology Enough? I’ve found myself in very crazy situation recently where I literally messed up. There’s no other way in putting this. I actually f*cked up… I said some stuff that wasn’t cool but didn’t think it would do any harm. What I said has cost me my best friend *sigh*. Should’ve known better…

A lot of people on Instagram seem to be in a perfect relationship these days. There are loads of #RelationshipGoals pictures of happy couples with a Colgate smile. Love is a beautiful thing! It’s nice to see people happy and enjoying each other’s company. But how many of these pictures are reflecting a reality? Are they just doing it for the gram or are they actually happy in their relationship? Living A Lie  There are people out there that are pretending to be happy. I know of some people who are trying their best to convince everyone that they are in a healthy relationship when in reality they are living a lie. The thing is there is no perfect relationship as we all go through ups and downs. But if you are constantly bumping heads with your boo why are you pretending to be happy? Why are you trying to proof this to everyone?   Focus…

There are so many ways to flaunt your bae to the whole world. From making your boo your plus one to EVERY single party you attend to posting pictures of your boo on Instagram. Posting your bae on social media has become a way of showing public affection to each other. A lot of people are all for flaunting their partner on social media. But there are some pros and cons that come with this. In this blog, I will be sharing two points you need to know before you decide to flaunt your bae on social media. The Birth Of #RelationshipGoals Back in the day, there weren’t any camera phones and social media platforms to publicise your relationship. The only way you would know that someone was in a relationship was by word of mouth or if someone introduced their bae to you. This changed when Facebook added the option to share your relationship status with everyone! I know some people…

Have you ever felt the urge to snoop through your partner’s belongings? Let me paint the picture… You’re at your partner’s house and you come across a random box in their closet. The fact that you’re even going through their closet is another question of its own. Anyways, you see this box on the top shelf. Do you leave it where it is or do you go through their stuff? Well Mary Jane Paul in the series Being Mary Jane couldn’t resist but to look through the box she found in her partner’s closet. According to her, she just wants to know more about her bae Justin. Is that a justified reason to go through your partner’s belongings though? ‘He Went Through My Phone!’ A couple of years ago, I dated a very weird guy. I probably don’t sound nice using the word weird to describe this guy but there’s literally no other word that describes his actions the…

What do you do when the love of your life decides to move to a different country? You’ll most probably burst down in tears and maybe even consider going with him. I’ve been there and did both. In my blog ‘When Are You Getting Married, [Insert Your Name]?’ I briefly touched on long distance relationships and said that this would be a topic for another day. Well today is the day to dive into this topic. Can you see yourself being in a long distance relationship if your partner decides to move to a different country to chase their dream? In this blog I will be discussing three points you gotta have in place in order for your long distance relationship to work. A Little Background Story… When I was 18 years old, I fell head over heels for a guy. We were in a relationship and everything was going so well.…

Have you ever watched a show where a girl declares her love to a guy by saying ‘I Love You’ only for him to respond back saying or doing something completely different? Some men will just kiss you to avoid saying it back or they’ll respond back with 101 questions about a different topic to distract you from the fact that you even said it in the first place! His reaction has got you thinking all kind of things… Does he even love me? Did I say it too soon? Are we on the same page? Hmm don’t you hate that feeling of uncertainty? It’s like you regret saying it all together! So that leads me to asking this question: When is the right time to say ‘I Love You’ to your partner? I’ll be using ily as a short version of ‘I Love You’ in this blog and will also be…