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This was meant to be a blog solely for my tall ladies but this topic actually relates to everyone. Even men can relate to it too! I will be writing in a girl’s perspective based on my experiences so just picture yourself in this situation by answering this question: How would you describe your perfect match using five words? What’s Your Type? If someone was to ask me what my type is, I would say: Tall, Black and Buff. With buff, I mean a guy who’s in shape with muscles. Let’s not mistake this for facial appearance lol. And obviously the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice *winks*! If he has facial hair then that’s a bonus but if he doesn’t, it’s not the end of the world lol. But have I ever ended up with someone who matches this full description? Hmm not really… It’s either the guy I dated…

What’s the first thing you normally do after upsetting someone? Apologise? But what if your apology isn’t accepted; what do you do then? ‘Think before you speak’ is a very common quote that we all know but sometimes seem to forget. There can be times where the wrong words find their way in your mouth. Instead of thinking before you speak, you end up saying something offensive. You might not think you did any harm with what you said. But guess what, it can still be taken the wrong way which can lead to you hurting someone’s feelings. Is An Apology Enough? I’ve found myself in very crazy situation recently where I literally messed up. There’s no other way in putting this. I actually f*cked up… I said some stuff that wasn’t cool but didn’t think it would do any harm. What I said has cost me my best friend *sigh*. Should’ve known better…

A lot of people on Instagram seem to be in a perfect relationship these days. There are loads of #RelationshipGoals pictures of happy couples with a Colgate smile. Love is a beautiful thing! It’s nice to see people happy and enjoying each other’s company. But how many of these pictures are reflecting a reality? Are they just doing it for the gram or are they actually happy in their relationship? Living A Lie  There are people out there that are pretending to be happy. I know of some people who are trying their best to convince everyone that they are in a healthy relationship when in reality they are living a lie. The thing is there is no perfect relationship as we all go through ups and downs. But if you are constantly bumping heads with your boo why are you pretending to be happy? Why are you trying to proof this to everyone?   Focus…

There are so many ways to flaunt your bae to the whole world. From making your boo your plus one to EVERY single party you attend to posting pictures of your boo on Instagram. Posting your bae on social media has become a way of showing public affection to each other. A lot of people are all for flaunting their partner on social media. But there are some pros and cons that come with this. In this blog, I will be sharing two points you need to know before you decide to flaunt your bae on social media. The Birth Of #RelationshipGoals Back in the day, there weren’t any camera phones and social media platforms to publicise your relationship. The only way you would know that someone was in a relationship was by word of mouth or if someone introduced their bae to you. This changed when Facebook added the option to share your relationship status with everyone! I know some people…

Have you ever felt the urge to snoop through your partner’s belongings? Let me paint the picture… You’re at your partner’s house and you come across a random box in their closet. The fact that you’re even going through their closet is another question of its own. Anyways, you see this box on the top shelf. Do you leave it where it is or do you go through their stuff? Well Mary Jane Paul in the series Being Mary Jane couldn’t resist but to look through the box she found in her partner’s closet. According to her, she just wants to know more about her bae Justin. Is that a justified reason to go through your partner’s belongings though? ‘He Went Through My Phone!’ A couple of years ago, I dated a very weird guy. I probably don’t sound nice using the word weird to describe this guy but there’s literally no other word that describes his actions the…

What do you do when the love of your life decides to move to a different country? You’ll most probably burst down in tears and maybe even consider going with him. I’ve been there and did both. In my blog ‘When Are You Getting Married, [Insert Your Name]?’ I briefly touched on long distance relationships and said that this would be a topic for another day. Well today is the day to dive into this topic. Can you see yourself being in a long distance relationship if your partner decides to move to a different country to chase their dream? In this blog I will be discussing three points you gotta have in place in order for your long distance relationship to work. A Little Background Story… When I was 18 years old, I fell head over heels for a guy. We were in a relationship and everything was going so well.…

Have you ever watched a show where a girl declares her love to a guy by saying ‘I Love You’ only for him to respond back saying or doing something completely different? Some men will just kiss you to avoid saying it back or they’ll respond back with 101 questions about a different topic to distract you from the fact that you even said it in the first place! His reaction has got you thinking all kind of things… Does he even love me? Did I say it too soon? Are we on the same page? Hmm don’t you hate that feeling of uncertainty? It’s like you regret saying it all together! So that leads me to asking this question: When is the right time to say ‘I Love You’ to your partner? I’ll be using ily as a short version of ‘I Love You’ in this blog and will also be…

How low are you talking when you say ‘let’s keep it on a low’? If you’re hooked on watching the drama series Being Mary Jane like me, you would know that Mary Jane Paul has come out of limbo and is now in a secret relationship with Justin. He made it very clear from the start to keep things on the low for while. MJP has no idea how long this will last for but all she knows is that she can’t say a thing to anyone about the relationship. Not even her best friend! Can you do that? Actually let me rephrase this, are you happy to keep your relationship a secret for as long as it lasts for?  Is There Another Girl In The Picture? I had my first relationship when I was 16 and still remember how my boyfriend (at that time) asked me to be his girl. I remember how…

Have you ever gone through the same cycle in a relationship or a friendship? Every time you address the issue, you hope and pray things will change for the better but somehow you keep going through the same sh*t over and over again! You’re trying your best to fix the issue but your friend or maybe even your bae don’t seem to play their role in fixing the reoccurring problem. This could be an issue that you’re both responsible for or an issue from their side. Either way, whatever you keep going through needs to STOP! Same sh*t, different toilet! There are so many different situations you can find yourself in that will seem like a never ending cycle. All scenarios lead to the same thing: frustration at its finest *sigh*. A very common example is when someone keeps flopping on plans that were made in advance. If you’ve read any of my previous blogs like ‘How…

That moment when a potential bae texts you ‘What you doing today? Let’s meet up’. You want to consider going but you know fully well that you already made prior plans with your girlfriends. What should you do? This feels like the most difficult decision you’ve ever had to make in your life. You have an angel on one side of your shoulder telling you to stick to your original plans and the devil on the other side convincing you to meet up with him. Confusion at its finest. In this post, I will discuss points to consider before deciding to go on a spontaneous meet up with a dude. Stop overthinking! As women we think so far ahead before we’re even in a relationship. ‘If I don’t go, he’ll never ask me to meet up again. If I don’t go, we’ll never get married.’ Wait, wait, wait a minute… get…