Do you think that you deserve the best in a relationship? You’re probably thinking ‘Duh, why is CynTea asking such a stupid question?’ Well, there’s always a good reason why I ask these questions. And now that you’ve answered ‘YES’ to this question, I’ve got another one for you:
‘Have you ever been in a relationship where you keep going through the same ups and downs over and over again?’
Hold that thought and picture this… You’re in a relationship. You and bae are really enjoying each other in all the ways you can think of. Heck, it feels like you guys are back in the honeymoon stage of the relationship. Nothing can go wrong at this point, right? But as soon as things are going very well, one particular thing keeps happening that just ruins the vibe between you guys. It’s like one day you’re really good and on another day things are really bad. Hmm does this scenario sound familiar to you?
‘You Deserve Better Girl’
Most people need a second opinion on their ups and downs. You’ve probably spilled all the beans about your relationship to your bestie or someone you can trust. And I’m guessing that they’ve told you that you deserve better than putting up with the never-ending problem in your relationship. You agree but do you REALLY believe you deserve better? ‘Cause once you and bae are “good” again, it’s like you forget how you felt when you were spilling all the tea to your bestie about the issue you’re facing in the relationship. You literally forget why you were upset even though this isn’t the first time you and bae are going through the same rough patch.
I get it, every relationship has its ups and downs. But if you believe you deserve better, why do you keep putting up with (the same) nonsense in a relationship? Hmm, I guess it depends on the scenario as you can’t give up easily on bae, right?
Let me tell you something… In a relationship, you’ll either face a bunch of hurdles or a bag of nonsense. There’s a thin line between these two things but they’re not the same. Hurdles are things you can face together in a relationship and potentially overcome together. Nonsense is a bunch of (never-ending) issues coming from your partner, third parties or maybe even yourself. Which one out of these two things are you dealing with the most in your relationship?
Do Your Actions Show That You Deserve Better?
If you love someone, you’ll definitely fight for love but where do you draw the line? You deserve to be happy and enjoy your relationship. Not to be fighting for love most part of it. How is that even healthy?
Just to make it clear, I’m not even talking about arguing in a relationship. I’m talking about constantly fighting for it to work. It’s not only arguments that can make a relationship unhealthy. An imbalance of effort and love can do the same.
If you believe you deserve better, you won’t spend months or maybe even years fighting for a relationship to work. Especially if your partner keeps bringing nonsense to the table.
I’ll never forget how I wasted my time fighting for a relationship as if I didn’t know I deserved better… I fought for it until the wheels literally came off. I’ve definitely learnt my lesson *sigh*.
Just remember… A relationship is a two-way street. And if it feels like a one-way road with a dead end, you really gotta ask yourself if you are fighting for the right thing. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you have to put up with their nonsense ’cause that ain’t love. Your partner should be sprinkling you with love, not with nonsense. You deserve better.
Sugars and love,