Who wants to be in a happy and healthy relationship? I’m sure you’ve always wanted to be in one. Even if you’re a baby girl or baby boy enjoying your single life and not in a rush to settle down, this thought must have crossed your mind before. Especially after seeing how some couples treat each other in public, on social media and maybe even in your household. Some of you have fallen in love with the way some couples interact with each other and say: “What a lovely couple, they look so happy. I want something like that.” I can see why you would want something like that. I mean, who wouldn’t wanna be in a happy, healthy relationship? It sounds like a silly question but trust me when I say it’s not. And I’ll tell you why after asking you this question:
Are you happy as a single person?

Are You Happy By Yourself?

There are a lot of people who think that once they are cuffed up and in a relationship, they’ll become the happiest person in the whole world. Hmmm, that can be true but that’s not always the case… Being in a relationship is fun and amazing if you ENTER the relationship as a happy person. But what do you mean, CynTea? Let me break it down for you…

A lot of people want to be in a relationship to BE happy. And that’s absolutely fine but are you happy with yourself before entering a relationship? In fact, do you know how to make yourself happy? I hope you can answer these questions because happiness starts from within. Not only do some couples look happy but they’re actually happy! And this is because they were happy by themselves before they got into a relationship. How do you expect to make someone happy in a relationship if you can’t even make yourself happy? Heck, how the hell do you expect to LOVE someone if you don’t even know how to love yourself? It all starts at home! You gotta be happy within yourself before you can even think about making someone else happy.

A Relationship Should ADD To Your Happiness!

Don’t be that person who enters a relationship looking for happiness. That’s one of the biggest mistakes you can make in life! Your bae shouldn’t be the center of your happiness. They should ADD to your happiness. And that’s what a lot of people get wrong in a relationship. Just getting this one thing right can avoid you from having silly arguments with your (future) bae. You don’t want to end up in an argument with bae EVERY SINGLE TIME he leaves the house because you can’t even entertain yourself in his absence. Not only are you giving bae a headache but you’re giving yourself an unnecessary headache.

So if you’re single, use this time to learn more about yourself. Figure out what makes you happy and practice on yourself by doing the things that make you happy so when you enter a relationship, you won’t have any issues with making your boo happy. Also, if you master your happiness, your whole world won’t crumble when sh*t hits the fan in a relationship. Things will not always be rosy in a relationship. You will go through ups and downs. It’s inevitable and bound to happen. Just know that it will be a lot easier to deal with when you know how to make yourself happy instead of relying on someone else to make you happy. Make sure you rely on yourself to be happy and only give people the power to ADD to your already existing happiness.

Sugars and love,

CynTea x



Hey guys, welcome to my website. My name is Cynthia but you can call me CynTea. I’m a 6'0" tall Dutch Nigerian who lives in the UK. I am a lifestyle blogger with a sprinkle of everything else. If you have any questions, feel free to contact me by leaving a comment via the contact page. CynTea x


  1. Hey Cynthia,
    I recently met you at the Fempire event & you’re a nice outspoken individual with strong knowledge & ambition. After reading your blogs, I’ve gain more about relationships & loving myself first. As I’m on this journey being single, I can actually say I’ve become more self disciplined, focusing on my wellbeing, my son & loved ones around me. Self love is the best remedy.

    Also, believing in myself is a major key because it allows me to control my way of thinking & speaking positive affirmations into existence.
    Therefore, I must say I never felt more happier being single.

    Looking forward to more blogs girl, very inspirational.

    Love, CB x

    • CynTea Reply

      Hi COCO BERRY,

      Thank you for reading the blog. I remember meeting you at the Fempire event 🙂 You’re so right! Self love is definitely the best remedy especially when you’re single. You gotta love yourself first before anyone can even think about loving you. I’m happy to hear that you are practicing this in your life. You are on the right path. Keep focusing on making yourself and your son happy. You wil see the blessings you’ll get from having a positive attitude towards life. Stay blessed girl.

      Sugars and love,

      CynTea x

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