What’s the first thing you normally do after upsetting someone? Apologise? But what if your apology isn’t accepted; what do you do then?
‘Think before you speak’ is a very common quote that we all know but sometimes seem to forget. There can be times where the wrong words find their way in your mouth. Instead of thinking before you speak, you end up saying something offensive. You might not think you did any harm with what you said. But guess what, it can still be taken the wrong way which can lead to you hurting someone’s feelings.

Is An Apology Enough?

I’ve found myself in very crazy situation recently where I literally messed up. There’s no other way in putting this. I actually f*cked up… I said some stuff that wasn’t cool but didn’t think it would do any harm. What I said has cost me my best friend *sigh*. Should’ve known better than to use those words even though I didn’t mean any harm. I’ve apologised a million times but ‘I’m sorry’ isn’t always enough…

Own Up To Your Mistakes!

As humans, we find it hard to admit when we’re wrong because of pride. But right is right and wrong is wrong. When you’re wrong, you gotta own it. If you don’t own it, it will be hard for the person to take your apology serious as they don’t want you to offend them again. Nobody is perfect and we’re all bound to f*ck up in life. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that you should use this as an excuse to start offending people. What I’m trying to say here is that being wrong is not the end of the world. It’s okay to be wrong but only when you’re willing to learn from your mistakes to avoid history from repeating itself.

Sometimes You Gotta Take A Step Back…

‘I’m sorry’ might sound like the best thing to say when you offend someone. But it isn’t always the answer to fixing a problem. There are times when you run out of words to solve the issue that will save your friendship or relationship from failing.
My situation is a perfect example of this. I’m at a point where I don’t know what to say or do anymore to make things right. All I can do is give my best friend some space and, continue to pray and love him from afar. You’re probably thinking I’m crazy for still referring to him as my best friend but the love I have for him hasn’t changed even though we aren’t on good terms. I still feel very bad for hurting his feelings. But by God’s grace, he will find it in his heart to forgive me one day and hopefully time will be the healer for you too in whatever hiccup you’re facing in your friendship or relationship.

Sugars and love,

CynTea x


Hey guys, welcome to my website. My name is Cynthia but you can call me CynTea. I’m a 6'0" tall Dutch Nigerian who lives in the UK. I am a lifestyle blogger with a sprinkle of everything else. If you have any questions, feel free to contact me by leaving a comment via the contact page. CynTea x


  1. Hi Cyntea,

    I love your blog I’ve just come across it today! So crazy because I have recently been in this situation except I have not apologised because I’ve done it many times before and then said sorry so I know he won’t even care for my apology plus this time I said really horrible things. What do you think I should do to show I’m sorry?

    Thank you

    • CynTea Reply

      Hi Cheryl, thank you for commenting. At this point, it sounds like an apology won’t be enough. Actions speak louder than words. So if you want him to forgive you, you have to show him that you’re really sorry by not doing the same thing again. You as an individual need to be willing to change and stop doing the same thing that makes you land in the situation where you always need to apologise because right now your apology will sound meaningless to him. So you have to give him some space, work on yourself and then reach out to him by showing that you’ve actually acknowledged your wrongdoings. Apologising is one thing but a lot of us don’t acknowledge our wrongdoings hence why the same thing keeps happening. Time will be a healer for both you and him so just reach out after a while. I’m sure he will miss your presence after some time. I hope this helps you sort out your issue.

      Sugars and love,

      CynTea x

      • Thank you so much, I will definetly give it some time. Look forward to reading more of your content so relatable.


        • CynTea Reply

          No worries girl! It’s only a matter of time until things go back to normal between you guys:) Don’t forget to subscribe so you’ll be the first to know when a new blog post is up 🙂

          Sugars and love,

          CynTea x

  2. Great Post (first time Reader)

    “Energy is never lost, just redirected”. whatever energy you have with this sole (adj) mate will forever exist.

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