Is holding a grudge in our nature? Well, for some more than others… There are people who only stay angry for a couple of days. And there are people who can hold a grudge until their grave. Is it worth holding a grudge for that long though?
Is It Worth Holding A Grudge?
At some point in life, someone will offend you. This could be a friend, family member or even a stranger. It’s inevitable! Most of us choose to hold a grudge and don’t realise that holding a grudge ends up hurting you more than the person who offended you. You’re the one who gets worked up when you think about the situation or even when you hear the offender’s name! Some of us even forget why they fell out with an old friend but still hold a grudge because of “the principle”.
The thing is there’s a principle in every situation. I get it, people will disrespect and upset you and I totally understand that certain things are hard to forgive. We’ve all offended someone whether we were aware of it or not and most of us have apologised for our wrongdoings. But can you just let the situation go for yourself? Why are you holding on especially when the offender doesn’t give a flying duck about the way you feel?
Holding Grudges Can Be Very Unhealthy!
I remember a time when someone really offended me and every time I saw the person or heard their name, I would get SO angry. It was really bad to the point where my friend commented on my behaviour. It was clear to him that I wasn’t over the situation and he was absolutely right. He advised me to let go but I would become super defensive by saying: ‘But it’s the principle!’
It wasn’t until he explained to me how my mood would switch from 0 to 100 that I realised that the situation was taking its toll on me. I was the one who was suffering from it and that was so unhealthy for my state of mind. When I decided to let go, I felt a whole lot better. I even became a happier person as it was subconsciously affecting me.
I’m not saying that you should let everyone disrespect and violate you so you can always forgive them. All I’m saying is let go for yourself. You don’t have to be best friends with the offender. You don’t even need to talk to them for crying out loud. Just let go and remove that weight from your heart because it’s really taking its toll on you. Some people have a reason and a season in your life, so don’t let the wrong doings of someone consume you and make the season an eternity of sorrow.
Sugars and love,