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Do you think that you deserve the best in a relationship? You’re probably thinking ‘Duh, why is CynTea asking such a stupid question?’ Well, there’s always a good reason why I ask these questions. And now that you’ve answered ‘YES’ to this question, I’ve got another one for you:  ‘Have you ever been in a relationship where you keep going through the same ups and downs over and over again?’ Hold that thought and picture this… You’re in a relationship. You and bae are really enjoying each other in all the ways you can think of. Heck, it feels like you guys are back in the honeymoon stage of the relationship. Nothing can go wrong at this point, right? But as soon as things are going very well, one particular thing keeps happening that just ruins the vibe between you guys. It’s like one day you’re really good and on another…

There are loads of pictures of couples on Instagram and Twitter with the caption ‘#RelationshipGoals’. When you see these pictures, you start thinking about your love life and often get lost in your thoughts. You end up asking yourself: ‘Why am I single?’ Being A Single Pringle For 4 Years It’s been nearly four years since my last serious relationship. In the past couple of years, I’ve been dating but nothing has developed into a relationship. ‘You’re single CynTea, you should go on dates and mingle!’ Yes, I agree dating can be fun. But after some time had gone by, most of us would like to take things to the next level with our potential bae. That’s when things can get tricky as you end up finding out that the guy you’re dating isn’t looking to commit. You’re clearly not on the same page so now you’ve got to start from square one again *sigh*… ‘You’re NOT A Failure!’…

It’s coming up to the most LOVABLE time of the year. Some people have been looking forward to this day for a very long time. And there are people who wished that this day didn’t exist due to one reason or the other. Could be due to a heartbreak, memories of an ex or maybe they just don’t give a flying duck about this date. Either way, it doesn’t change the fact that Valentine’s Day is almost here. What Have You Got Planned For Valentine’s Day? Have you made any plans with bae? If you did, that’s good for you! Spoil your bae. In fact, show EXTRA love to bae if you like. Do whatever floats your boat. But what do you get up to on Valentine’s Day if you’re single and don’t have a bae to spend the day with? A lot of single people don’t look forward to this…

Have you ever found yourself breaking up with your ex only for things to feel like nothing has changed? Let me paint the picture… You’re still in regular contact with each other by having your daily WhatsApp debates, still sending each other memes through Instagram and let’s not forget about acting lovey-dovey like nothing has changed… This could be from days to months after the breakup! So when is the relationship really over I hear you say? Good question! Let’s dive straight into it. “Are You Guys Still Together?” Every couple has something that they would describe as ‘that’s our thing’. It could be from having a date night scheduled every Friday night to going back and forth with WhatsApp voice notes during working hours. It varies from couple to couple. Now imagine if “this thing” was to carry on after the breakup… I’ve experienced a few breakups in my lifetime that didn’t make any…

My love life has felt like a long roller coaster ride for the past couple of years. One minute, things are going very well with a guy and then suddenly things change. Does this scenario ring a bell to you? It’s like the conversations become less. You stop receiving those ‘Good morning miss, I hope you slept well’ messages. Every morning, you still wake up eager to find out whether he messaged you overnight. You look at your phone and guess what… NO text and missed calls from him. To make things worse, he even read your message on WhatsApp but didn’t respond back. Things just don’t feel the same anymore… What Have I Done?         ‘Have I done something wrong?’ is probably the first thought that strikes your mind. ‘Hmmm maybe he’s busy’ is what you say to reassure yourself that you haven’t done anything wrong. Somehow you end up reminiscing about…

When are we coming to eat Jollof? When are we going to cut a cake? These are the type of questions people bombard me with at family parties and in the church. As a Nigerian lady, I’ve noticed that if you’re in your mid 20’s and you’re not engaged or do not have a boyfriend, people will start being concerned. Read this in an African accent: ‘Ah ah, are you being too picky? Why don’t you have a boyfriend by now? Are you driving them away? It’s funny how they ask and accuse me of all these things. These are the same people that advised me to focus on getting a degree in university and not have a boyfriend because men are a distraction. So aunty, if I actually took your advice (not like it makes any difference to my current relationship status), how the hell am I supposed to be engaged right now lol? Why Is Everyone Playing Cupid?…

This was meant to be a blog solely for my tall ladies but this topic actually relates to everyone. Even men can relate to it too! I will be writing in a girl’s perspective based on my experiences so just picture yourself in this situation by answering this question: How would you describe your perfect match using five words? What’s Your Type? If someone was to ask me what my type is, I would say: Tall, Black and Buff. With buff, I mean a guy who’s in shape with muscles. Let’s not mistake this for facial appearance lol. And obviously the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice *winks*! If he has facial hair then that’s a bonus but if he doesn’t, it’s not the end of the world lol. But have I ever ended up with someone who matches this full description? Hmm not really… It’s either the guy I dated…

A lot of people on Instagram seem to be in a perfect relationship these days. There are loads of #RelationshipGoals pictures of happy couples with a Colgate smile. Love is a beautiful thing! It’s nice to see people happy and enjoying each other’s company. But how many of these pictures are reflecting a reality? Are they just doing it for the gram or are they actually happy in their relationship? Living A Lie  There are people out there that are pretending to be happy. I know of some people who are trying their best to convince everyone that they are in a healthy relationship when in reality they are living a lie. The thing is there is no perfect relationship as we all go through ups and downs. But if you are constantly bumping heads with your boo why are you pretending to be happy? Why are you trying to proof this to everyone?   Focus…

There are so many ways to flaunt your bae to the whole world. From making your boo your plus one to EVERY single party you attend to posting pictures of your boo on Instagram. Posting your bae on social media has become a way of showing public affection to each other. A lot of people are all for flaunting their partner on social media. But there are some pros and cons that come with this. In this blog, I will be sharing two points you need to know before you decide to flaunt your bae on social media. The Birth Of #RelationshipGoals Back in the day, there weren’t any camera phones and social media platforms to publicise your relationship. The only way you would know that someone was in a relationship was by word of mouth or if someone introduced their bae to you. This changed when Facebook added the option to share your relationship status with everyone! I know some people…

What do you do when the love of your life decides to move to a different country? You’ll most probably burst down in tears and maybe even consider going with him. I’ve been there and did both. In my blog ‘When Are You Getting Married, [Insert Your Name]?’ I briefly touched on long distance relationships and said that this would be a topic for another day. Well today is the day to dive into this topic. Can you see yourself being in a long distance relationship if your partner decides to move to a different country to chase their dream? In this blog I will be discussing three points you gotta have in place in order for your long distance relationship to work. A Little Background Story… When I was 18 years old, I fell head over heels for a guy. We were in a relationship and everything was going so well.…