It’s been a minute since I wrote a post for my tall sisters. Don’t worry, I haven’t forgotten about you. You’re probably looking at the title of this post and thinking: ‘How can you be too tall to be a bridesmaid?’ Girl, I’m as confused as you. Since when do bridesmaids have a height requirement?
“It’s Only A Joke Mate..”
Let me save you the heartache; This statement was a “joke”. And the joke goes like this:
I was having a chat with a couple of friends and the bride-to-be about her upcoming wedding. We all asked the bride-to-be whether she has decided who her bridesmaids are gonna be. She chose her bridesmaids on the spot from the people who were in the room. I jokingly said ‘What about me?’ She then replied saying: ‘You’re too tall.’ She immediately said that she was joking but I would be lying if I said that her statement didn’t make me feel a way.
First of all, let’s make things clear… I would NEVER ask to be someone’s bridesmaid! That question always comes from the bride so I was just joking when I said that. I guess you could say that her statement was just a “joke” too and that I’m reading too much into it. But for some reason her statement made me wonder whether there are girls out there that have actually experienced this before?
So I’m Too TALL To Take Pictures Too?
As a tall woman, I’ve heard all kinds of comments all my life. The tall bridesmaid’s statement took my mind back to the times when some people made some weird and annoying comments about my height. ‘This girl is so tall! She’s actually taking the p*ss’ and ‘I don’t wanna look short in this picture standing next to you’, just to name a few.
So now we’re too TALL to take pictures with people?! You probably thought that being asked to stand at the back when posing for a picture was the worst thing ever since no one gets to see your outfit lol. I guess not!
Again, this statement was a “joke”. But what if it was true? Hmm they do say that there’s some truth behind every joke… Can you imagine how these comments can make someone feel who isn’t secure in themselves?
You probably can’t relate to what I’m saying if you’re not tall so let me flip the scenario…
What if someone told you that you were too pretty, ugly, skinny, fat, dark-skinned, light-skinned or too short to take a picture with, how would you feel?
Now put yourself in my shoes. I’m sure that comment would have made you feel uncomfortable and maybe even insecure right?
So what I’m trying to say is you should be mindful of what comes out of your mouth. Especially if it’s a “joke”. Some jokes could be funny to you but offensive to others.
You’re Bigger Than These Comments!
There was a time when these height comments used to get to me. Started thinking I was too tall to do this and too tall to do that… But guess what, I’m not too tall to do anything!
I’m tall and that’s never going to change! I love myself for who I am and you should love yourself too. Don’t make anyone make you feel like you’re too tall to be or do anything!
This is just a kind reminder to be mindful in the way you address tall women. Especially since a lot of people have made it look like it’s only cool for men to be tall. In fact, let’s all be mindful of what we say to one another by considering each other’s feelings at all times.
Sugars and love,